Over the years I have seen the Military adopt different marriage classes to help soldiers.  Some have been weekend retreats, some just studies.  The Love and respect seminar has been by far the best material, with practical application and relative teaching.  Our soldiers have had the opportunity to attend these teaching weekly for five weeks.

From the Love and respect website http://loveandrespect.com/

“What is Love and Respect? The founders believe love best motivates a woman and respect most powerfully motivates a man. Research reveals that during marital conflict a husband most often reacts when feeling disrespected and a wife reacts when feeling unloved.  We asked 7,000 people this question: when you are in a conflict with your spouse or significant other, do you feel unloved or disrespected?  83% of the men said “disrespected.”  72% of the women said, “Unloved.”  Though we all need love and respect equally, the felt need differs during conflict, and this difference is as different as pink is from blue!”

I know that many soldiers like me have talked to their spouses about reading the book together in order to strengthen their own marriages.  I also have heard the excitement from what the soldiers have learned and been able to incorporate into their marriages even from so far away.  Be encouraged our soldiers will come home excited to reunite with family members and continue to grow closer to their spouses in new and exciting ways.

SPC NALYWAIKO

420^th MCB Chaplain Assistant